By now most of you know a decent bit about me.I feel like I know some of you more than I know people that I talk to in person. It’s an amazing feeling to have so much support from complete strangers. Thank you all so much for that!
I’ve always been considered an outsider, the weird and out of place person. Sadly, that hasn’t changed much in my adult life. I have a small circle of friends that I love dearly and they’re either just as weird as me or accept and enjoy my weirdness. I made choices in my life that caused me to grow up a little faster than most people my age and that probably explains why I get along with older people more. I guess that’s a good and bad thing.
I also have social anxiety. I’m pretty sure that started at a very young age. When I was a kid I had a small stuttering problem. I kept to myself a lot because of it. It still acts up every now and then. My brain talks faster than my month can get the words out so they tend to trip over each other. Sometimes my brain just doesn’t know how to respond to certain things. I read an article that explained it like this- when someone ask you how you are and you respond with a thank you. Then you freak out and wonder why you just said that. That pretty much sums it up. Having a conversation with someone in person isn’t as easy as writing it out. You don’t have 5 minutes to sit there and think about how you want to say stuff or how to respond.
On top of anxiety, my tolerance for drama is at an all time low. I’ve lived through a lot of stuff in my short 27 years on earth. I know what’s important and what’s worthy of wasting my energy on. Drama just isn’t one of those things. It amazes me how people will treat someone just because they don’t understand them or know them. I always thought that when I grew up the drama and the ignorant judgmental people would disappear. That’s just one more thing to add to the book of things I was wrong about. I know it’s human nature to judge other people but I’m just so tired of it. No one really knows what someone else is going through or what kind of war might be going on in their own mind.
I always tell my son to not care what other people say about him because they don’t really know him and it’s their loss if they don’t want to take the time to know how awesome he is. So for now I’m going to work on following that same advice. I don’t expect to be accepted by the entire world, I just didn’t expect for people be so judgmental toward a person that they don’t even want to know just for minding their own business.
Since I haven’t posted a song of the week for about 2 weeks now, here’s a song!
December 13, 2016 at 10:39 pm
Beautiful thought..
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December 14, 2016 at 1:26 am
Omg I’d forgotten about that song. Thanks for sharing!
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December 14, 2016 at 1:14 pm
You’re very welcome!
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December 14, 2016 at 2:22 pm
It’s amazing how the broken find it very easy to connect with one another! Hugs!
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December 14, 2016 at 4:13 pm
It’s because we understand without judgment. 🙂
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December 14, 2016 at 7:31 pm
I’m so with you, people are so quick to judge in a number of ways! I’ve been through a fair bit too having moved out at 16 and getting a job so I could pay rent I had to grow up quickly. There is a lot people don’t know about things I’ve been through at that stage of my life they just see the here and now, a lovely house with a loving husband. I get sick of people thinking I’ve always been up on my luck because I haven’t. Even since me and my husband have been together we have had our struggles a lot of which is personal and I don’t feel the need to tell people, let alone plaster it on social media, but we deal with things daily that no one knows anything about yet I still get judged all the time because I have the ‘perfect life and perfect family’ Let people judge that is what I say, I’m changing as a person, I no longer need drama or am trying to please everyone, I know who my friends are and who not to expect too much from anymore. Life is too short to try and please people that in the grand scheme of things don’t really matter! 🙂
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December 14, 2016 at 8:02 pm
You’re so right! I actually had a friend once ask me if my husband and I ever fight. Of course we do. I don’t it’s possible to live with someone and never argue. We just both agreed that those things should stay between us mostly out of respect for each other. I’ve known people to let all of their drama out on social media and I see people’s reactions to it. I think it’s mostly just a way to get attention not vent as some have put it.
Everyone has a story and I enjoy sharing part of mine and reading others. I don’t mind someone’s opinion on a situation but I hate when people jump the gun on something they know nothing about. Or in this case judge someone when they don’t know even one thing about them. But life goes on either way.
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December 14, 2016 at 8:12 pm
That’s it and try not to let them affect you too much. They aren’t worth fretting over if they don’t mean that much to you.
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December 14, 2016 at 9:17 pm
Well said. Wish growing up took out the drama but sadly it does not. But I’m one to not really care what people say about me and I know you know that best of me. You have always been a strong and independent person. And it’s people losses like you said if they can’t give someone the time of day to get to understand someone. I love you girl. Love your blogs.
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December 14, 2016 at 9:28 pm
I know and you’re awesome for that! I’m sure I’ll get there eventually. I’m happy to know you read them! Love you more bestie!
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December 16, 2016 at 7:02 am
Very well written!!!
Just don’t care what people say!!!
Loved this one!
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December 16, 2016 at 12:47 pm
Thank you! I’m definitely working on that not caring part 🙂
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December 16, 2016 at 12:49 pm
Great going girl!!!❤
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December 16, 2016 at 11:59 am
You are so amazing and beautiful! Thank you for sharing it takes courage to tell a world full of people who don’t know you how wonderful you are! I also suffer from social anxiety, it sucks! Cheers to us!
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December 16, 2016 at 12:50 pm
Thank you! I think it’s easier to explain to strangers than it is to people that are closest to me. Strange how that works haha. We will concur it one day I hope 🙂
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